Psalm 23:4 Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I fear no evil, for you are with me.
All men fear death, (Hebrews 2:15) so your job as a parent is to show your child a non-scary way of looking at death, especially if someone in your family dies and explaining it becomes an issue.
Find a toy truck and a toy automobile to demonstrate. If you have a light souce you can set up so much the better.
Here is what you can say.
“Do you remember how when we go on a road trip we have to pass big trucks that are going slower than we are? Do you remember when we passed on the side away from the sun that a giant shadow fell on our car? But we did not fear because we could see the road ahead. Very soon we were back in the sunlight and the shadow was gone.
Well that is what death is like. It is only a shadow. And passing from here to there is simple and uncomplicated. God is on the other side waiting for us.
Of course we don’t want you going there any day soon. That is also God’s choice.”
This illustration comes from Dr Donald Grey Barnhouse (d.1960)
He said, “Children, would you rather be run over by a truck, or by its shadow?” The children said, “Well, of course Dad, we’d much rather be run over by the shadow! That can’t hurt us at all.” Dr. Barnhouse said, “Did you know that two thousand years ago the truck of death ran over the Lord Jesus in order that only its shadow might run over us?”
quoted from Lou Nicholes Missionary/Author.